Sunday, March 31, 2024

Happy Easter -- Happy New Birth (and birthday) to a man with mindful adventures -- a "Stroke" of Genius!

 

Dear family and dear friends,                                                                                              31 March 2024

Happy Easter!  What has lifted your step with your march into March?  February ended for us with a wonderful visit from a brother from Washington and his wife, caring for and nurturing family members close by.  We also enjoyed watching a grandson encourage the rhythm with percussion in his junior high band and charm our neighborhood with his Mozart’s Rondo a la Turka, which carries whispers of melodic streams from a daughter, his mother at a similar time in her life. 

It is gratifying to see his next younger sister join the jam, working to perfect the hymn, “I Stand All Amazed” and “He is Risen” organ-style on their keyboard. Little brother is learning “Bring the World His Truth” and youngest sister, “America, the Beautiful.”  Other beloved students shared talents, playing Pachelbel’s Canon in D, and “If you’re Happy and You Know it” at our neighborhood talent show, all a miracle as we recovered from the flurry of activity a few days earlier.    

How it started:  Saturday March 9th, a neighbor of my mother called announcing a flood in the basement of Mom’s home due to a washing machine connection disintegrating at its head.  A kind neighbor cleaned up the problem, and replaced the connections.  Laurene drove to two hardware stores searching replacements for an apparently leaking drain hose. Monday, after researching to learn of zero replacement drain hoses for Mom’s washer, we researched new washers.  Four thousand dollars, and any new one would not fit the closet, after all was said and done.  “What if we simply try the washer to see if the hose works?” mechanical engineer Val suggested.  Try, we did.  Work, it did.  Now, to fit the present machine back into the closet.  No problem!  Never fear, invincible daughter is here!  Back against the wall, legs pressed into the machine, it budged.  The closet door closed!!  Only, on the umpteenth try of working to get that extra smidgeon of an inch, I thought I heard something release in my back and felt instantly weak. 


“Do you want to get it checked out?” daughter from Georgia inquired. Maybe.  Only I don’t want to move, for maybe a month!  In the night, after wrestling tax preparation I decided yes, a visit to urgent care, to ascertain no imminent, irreversible injury, I would go. And do.  Only the next morning, 3.12.24, was a very special day.  For months, to commemorate the 12th birthday of a lovely granddaughter, we had looked forward to a morning appointment to perform baptisms for deceased family members at the Bountiful temple.  When Val approached the bed asking what day it was, I reminded him of the appointment.  He dressed. I think we need to go to the hospital, he said.  Yes!  After we go to the temple!  

On the way to Kristen’s to pick up the children, Val asked where Kristen lived.  He did not recognize the way to her house.  “What does her husband do for a living?”  When we arrived at Kristen’s, I roused this nurse son in law from sleep and invited Zach to talk to Val. "Kristen, would you be willing to drive Val to the hospital?  I have an appointment with the Lord and my grandchildren!"  Yes, and yes.  In the proceeding conversation, Val’s answers reflected confusion.  Val did not know the date.  He did not remember the name of the President of the United States, although  he did know how he felt about him.

While the children and I felt joy and peace and the beauty of being dressed in white, in holy places, Val was dressed in green and underwent extensive testing in the hospital emergency room, after an MRI, CT scan and more tests we found out Val had suffered an acute ischemic attack (a minor stroke.) 

 

A highly trained neurologist released him the next day without restrictions, using the words "no residual deficits."  We consider this a miracle and a wake-up up call (even though Val has meticulously chosen a healthful diet after watching his father and uncle and grandfather undergo heart attacks and quadruple bypass surgeries.)  Because Val loves researching health, he located a John Hopkins article detailing how to avoid a reoccurrence. He is searching for references, ideas, principles of healthy practices.  We encourage all family and friends to learn, to pay attention, to ask questions. If you have a feeling that you need to find more information, now may be the right time. 

Another miracle:  after two weeks of challenging back discomfort, a physical therapist explained that my Sacro ischial joint was misaligned.  She helped put it back so that my left leg is NO longer, longer than the right!  My pain is lessened.  Perspective much brighter.  God is good.  Life is better.  Isn't life interesting when things begin to line up properly? 

Thank you for your efforts in helping to do that daily for yourselves and others!

He lives!

 Love, Laurene and Val

Wednesday, February 14, 2024

And Together They Built a Life They Loved


Dear Family, dear friends:

Oh, what do you do in the winter time when all the skies are blue?

 

For Christmas, a daughter shared a course called “Get Your House Back.”  

This daughter is gangbusters about changing pantries and bedrooms from confusion to clarity and the rest of us are catching up!  

We learned this morning about building lovely things with what is in front of you.  

What is in front of you?

  Our daughter cleared a closet, attached owl feathers to keys, and crafted a gingerbread replica to match our summer Paris House, the childhood home to my father’s mother.   

     

(You are NOT seeing a spider atop the roof -- just fireworks to help us remember the Fourth of July)

Our own efforts hardly match, but we will share pieces of our first focus:
 a game cupboard and kitchen island.

(Perhaps views of before and after will give someone courage!)


Lessons learned?  Manageable spaces lend toward re-creation of food and fun.  

Foundations of connection. 

(Thanks Spencer and Patrick M. for a fun scout stick game!)

Paring of storage spots are undergoing still, to offer spill-over for “time will tell” (undecided overflow.) 

Autumn painting of an upstairs bedroom offered a happy space

to invite Val’s mom, our wonderful 94-year-old example of optimism, to rehabilitate after the replacement of her pacemaker battery.  Interestingly, two days prior, Verla learned her twin underwent close to the same procedure -- same doctor, same facility.  

Who accompanies your life challenges?   

Shadows changes in your heart?  

A friend this week asked a teen son to “Tell me about Your Jesus!”  

"How close is He when you turn around after walking away?"

His answer: “He is right next to me --

 He followed me!” 

Highlights of our last few weeks include: dodging drops in a rain storm to parry puddles, on wet sidewalks of Salt Lake to hear Linda Margetts, Tabernacle Choir organist, entertain us with 100 years of musical expression. 

A 10-year-old friend next to me asked, “Is she better than you?”  I nodded.   “Yes!”  

Similar to our grandson, who watched our 10-year-old friend’s self-taught performance of Canon in D to burst out with a “Wow Wee!” The next words were, “I want to do that!

We are grateful to read about a strong Book of Mormon captain 

and his friends who were no less serviceable.”  

A grandson, working to gather resources to travel for a Science Olympiad National event in the spring, has been calming cobwebs and dissipating dust for another Great Grandma whom he is trying to pass up in height.  Coding, sledding, choir, piano teaching and organ ventures beckon this grandson. His siblings and far away cousins talk about robotics, drama, water color painting, Valentines, and preparation for a midwinter family vacation and summer mission trip possibilities, while Grandpa Val prunes fruit trees for future autumn offerings.  

(Note:  we are learning that branches that rise straight up do not bear fruit.  

The branches that reach outward -- they will bear!  

We are learning also that as we clear away the bad,  the good can grow!)  

It is a privilege to participate in processes that invite us to do our part to make things prettier, more pleasing, purposeful, peaceable.  Wow Wee!  I want to do that!”

Tell us all about your pleasant past times!  

Words we heard yesterday from a young wife celebrating her spouse’s graduating from 14 years of higher education, “Optimism looks good on you!” 

 Another neighbor mentioned, when she can’t find happiness, she looks instead for peace and joy.  

We heard recently we can foster restful sleep patterns by discovering reasons for daytime belly laughs!

What tickles YOUR funny bone?

As we continue with our winter’s-end efforts to create space for things that last --
Teach us: 

What do peace, joy and happiness look like in your neck of the woods? 

Grandpa’s best wit for this week: “What do you call a small Valentine? 

A Valentiny!    

                                           

May February be filled with small and simple things that lift you! 

Love, Laurene and Val